As a child, you got the first taste of love from how you felt in your relationship with your parents. If your life growing up felt chaotic, or you experienced frequent conflict and deception, it's likely that your subconscious mind has adopted those experiences as part of its definition of love.
On a conscious level, you may think you’re attracted to partners who make you feel good, but your subconscious mind is actually attracted to people who fit your subconscious definition of love, even if that definition is setting you up for pain.
So this is how it works: if love equals home and home equals abandonment, then love equals abandonment.
As a result, you may find yourself attracted to partners who also create a feeling of chaos, confusion, and loneliness.
I know people suffer because of the many misconceptions they have about love. Because of this, we often think that we are loving when we are, in fact, not being loving.
Love isn't about compromising or sacrificing.
It isn't selfless, and it's not about approval.
It can't be love if parts of you are rejected, even if it's good to hear, "I love you even though you are [difficult/an addict/fat/thin/and so on]."